Dumbass men who have a good woman they work hard to get the woman and once they have her they start slacking best believe another man is waiting to take his place....and women be getting on my nerves y u gonna wanna change to suit ur man especialy if u so damn beautiful know ur worth move on stop kissing these dumbass frogs notice the quiet guy in the corner who has nothing he will treat like the princess u are stop chasing money be confident whooooo that felt good thanks
shutup and stop judging people,people like you irk me seriously with their judgemental attitudes dont judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes.
Leave him. I was in exact same situation but 15 yrs together. It's scary n hard but leave. It's 1 yr since I left n life's alot better. I go out see places etc etc. all he did was watch tv. We r still friends. Have the courage to get out n make urself happy. Ur not responsible for his life,he is
life is what you make it. There are always people with bigger problems than you. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Or the cancer ward at a hospital. Count your blessings.
I hope the person you just posted this reply to isn't someone suffering from, let's just go with plain old depression. Depression is an ILLNESS. Depression is no different from diabetes, cancer, cerebral palsy. Depression is not something one controls. Depression is caused by a reduction in certain neurotransmitters in the brain, such as serotonin and norepinephrine. So unless you can show me that you are capable of reaching into your brain and adding or reducing needed neurotransmitters then don't you dare ever tell someone with a disease to go volunteer at a CANCER WARD!!! You jackass.
Wanna know what pisses me off???? Adults who act like children and think the world revolves around them! And back stabbing "friends", and stupid people who think the world owes them something! That's all for now!
i wish i could just pack my daughter up and move far away im tired of being judged for my past. for having a reputation that i dont even know what the reputation is. im tired of peoples parents hating me because of my past or because i have a child. i work hard and do the best possible damn job i can living at home to raise my daughter my way and that should be respected not looked down upon. i may be young but im a mother non the less. if i wanna marry someone because im in love with them thats my business dont question my reasoning im in love for christs sakes thats why you marry someone for love. there may be pluses but the real reason is for love. so stop questioning me and accept me for who i am and what my future holds not my past! its the past for a reason damn it
Regarding your past, the people that matter, don't mind. The people who mind, don't matter! Make u and your daughter happy...get married if that is what you want, those judging, don't gotta walk in your shoes! Keep your head up:)
you get married for love dont you and thats why i want to do it..i shouldve known he was second guessing he wants to wait to please his mother...and i guess im okay with it i just thought maybe for once things were going to go my way..and your right the people that matter dont mind but in my case the people in his life that matter do mind and thats what hurts..ive been used abused cheated on raped and all of that they dont know and they dont want to understand they just hold my past against with me without really knowing anything about it!! i have raised my daughter on my own since day one even though her father was in the picture he was a dead beat who was sleeping around the entire time we were dating i was pregnant and while we were engaged and married and i didnt believe it i was trying to do what i thought was best and then i couldnt anymore he got married 6 days after we got divorced if he gets to be happy dont i??
So I'm really tired of people and media trying to force people to accept the lifestyle of homosexuals. If you say you don't approve then everyone want to jump down your head. A person don't have to accept that lifestyle if they don't want to. I love the person....not the homosexual lifestyle (that's the difference)...it goes against God word.
Yeah, put your head in the sand for another 100 years ya dumb Jesus loving freak!! If you talk like you write then your from the south or just plain dumb!
I know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
I love him and it kills me to have to see him everyday at work smiling and talking like nothings wrong. I show up everyday looking great, smiling and acting like the big girl I'm supposed to be while I feel helpless and hopeless on the inside. I pray I get another job soon so I can put him behind me.
I have fallen in love with another man while I'm married. I wasn't looking for love because my husband loves me dearly. This man I have fallen in love with has opened my eyes to many things about myself, as well as what I am lacking in my marriage. I'm lost and very confused on what I should do now. I have put 10 years of my life into this marriage and now want to walk away to be with this man that have grown to love in only 2 months. Sounds crazy, but it's real. I no longer question the love I feel, I question whether or not walking away from my marriage to be with this man that's willing to give me the happiness I deserve..?..
everyone deserves to be truly happy sweetie and love comes and finds us when were not looking. i wish i could say its easy to walk away but its not i was in a commited relationship for 3 years and i walked away because i feel in love with someone else and mine was shorter more like a couple days kind of thing so i know how you feel. but honey you deserve true happiness and sometimes we have to think about whats best for us and not for others.
Yeh I agree you need to really think about that you might just be caught up on the thought of something new and enjoying the excitement of it right now! Make sure he your mr right and not your mr right now! Seriously we all like the thought of falling in love again becuz of the rush see if you can try and fall in love with your husband all over of not the case at least keep it real with him! J/s
we all need to be happy and loved the way we need to be loved.whomever you chose ,chose the one you want to spend the rest of your life with..the one that make you feel the way you need to feel.Do what is best for you.Give it time and time will tell all.Don't be quick to judge. Go find your happiness, we all deserve that unfortunately, we all cant find it,if you found it got for it and go with your heart.good luck..prayers to you..
I am in the same situation except I have been married almost 17 years. I married my husband too fast. I had just gotten out of a dysfunctional 6 year relationship and it was so great to have something "normal" that before I knew it, I was engaged within 6 months and married 6 months later. I've never been happy and have met someone that I've known almost two years and I am crazy crazy about him. I have taken more time to get to know him than I did my husband. I want to leave SO bad but I've always done what makes other people happy and if I do something for myself, then I'm "selfish". My husband loves me very much but I'm not in love with him.
wish my family were not all drug heads mom has 8 kids and 6 are on drugs and 2 dont even raise there own kids and the reason 6 of em are on drugs is because she got them on it if ppl realllly new how screwed up my damn family is they would have us put away!!the only reason 2 of us arent on drugs is because my dad raised us when she left him she left me and my brother best thing she ever did!!!wish my dad was still here i miss him he was the only person i could talk to:(but i guess thats life you never know what your going to get...
I wish they weren't drug heads too ! Try to get some support and hang in there it gets better! Lived with an alcoholic dad and raging sister. Once I grew up I had to work through it but am glad it's over. Keep the faith!
Well I hate. Hate crazy women who think they should force a man to stay with them who monitor phone calls with t let him talk to his mother... and when he says he wants to leave she says oh my step dad is a cop ill tell them your abusing me and you'll get arrested and go to jail.... some people are just demented and as sad it sounds I hope he gives her one good punch knocks her the fuck out and walks out the door
Do ur best to put tht behind u the ruined ur life in the past why let them continue to be even a part of ur present... The bible says to forgive those wo have sinned against u... Im sorry that that happened to you.... Please let it go, hate is poison to ur soul and life has much more to offer:)
I don't think you need to forgive those who harmed you so harshly. I know people say that forgiveness isn't for them it's for you, but I think that is a bunch of bullshit. The best gift you can give yourself is living well and doing your best despite what happened to you!!! Don't continue to be a victim! Trust me I know it's easier said then done, but you deserve to give yourself the opportunity of the best life possible and have to believe that!!!!
Easier said than done. Why must people always put religion out there. If you haven't experienced the pain and abuse how can you share such words of wisdom? You have no idea until you have lived with it. Thanks for trying and I feel for the person that has gone through this because I deal with it everyday. Forgiving is easy, forgetting is hard.
Thnx for y'all inputs I really appreciate it each day is a struggle for me to put it in the past but I find it very hard to forgive them although it happened many years ago it still haunts me as if it just occurred they have ruined my life and trust in relationship with men's but I feel like why should I forgive them when they were the one who mentally and physically destroyed my life
I'm tired of my life. Sometimes, when I'm walking down the street, the thought of 'accidentally' walking in front of an oncoming car crosses my mind on multiple occasions. I'm just too much of a coward to do it.
well continue to be a coward then. it would make things worse for those around you. you are here for a reason. keep your head up and look for inspiration in books of positive thinking and it can change you, it has changed me. your not alone
it would make things worse for those around you. you are here for a reason. keep your head up and look for inspiration in books of positive thinking and it can change you, it has changed me. your not alone
i have tried everthing but even things start going right for me in my life everything always takes a turn for the worst how do you believe your meant to be here when everything is always going wrong!
I have a real good one for you...what in the hell do you do when you open your heart and home to a 55 year old uncle that is in bad health and just had surgery on a 99% clogged artery in the neck, and now a month later when he gets his pain pills and zanexes filled he is staying so fucked up that he cant even walk without stumbling into everything within a 3 foot radius....not to mention I have 4 children that I do not want exposed to these actions, but no one else in the family will step up and he will be homeless if I kick him out. I have also found pills in the floor and down in the couch. What steps can someone take to get help in this situation?
go to social services and tell them the story and explain he needs a place to stay and help. they will give you all the info and then you can explain to the uncle that he needs a better situation than he has with you and you have found some help for him. then take him to social services/housing and say he has to move out with in a month so they know you have a deadline and they need to place him in an apartment, a resthome or a nursing home. i hope this helps you. keep your head up. sincerly,bean
so sorry to hear that your uncle sounds just like my mom she gets her pain meds and zanex and stays so fucked up until there all gone she 60 yrs old and i just dont know what to do with her,i have 3 kids but only 2 still live at home and i hate that they have to see there grandmother like that well if you can call her a grandmother she cares more about her pills than anyone are anything:(
call a rehab center and try to set up an intervention have u watched the show intervention?? its very helpful and they have numbers u can call at the end also good luck and i agree ur kids dont need to see that :((
ok, i am so tired of listening to people say they need money, they are losing their house, the kids need or WANT stuff but then they sit there on their ass and do nothing. they won't go get a job because they are lazy and 'have trouble working with people and i always get in trouble, and i don't feel good'. IT IS ALL BECAUSE YOUR TO F*CKING LAZY AND WANT TO BE PAMPERED FROM YOUR HUSBAND WHO IS ON DISABILITY. i love you but you are seriously ridiculous with your excuses. oooooo but wait you can buy fast food and order delivery and go out to eat and buy stuff over the internet and waste the whole day on the computer doing NOTHING THAT WILL MAKE YOU MONEY but just spend money all day and night. you dont clean or cook and your children are up all day and night. and if your kid doesnt go to school then why are they hanging out with their boyfriends and friends and going out? OMG IT IS SO STRESSFUL TO BE YOUR FRIEND BUT I AM LOYAL to a fault. thanks for letting me vent
everyone has troubles and deals with them in their own way. some people have a 'mental issue' that holds them back and they may not know it. therapy could help them. If people complain that they are broke and have money issues then they shold not be going out and buying things like fast food, quick check 7-11 stops, purses, going to restaurants every week. BUT if they are not complaining on a regular basis then say la vie. let it be. again we are all having money issues but you can not complain if your are spending like your rich. family and housing come first. good luck
I'm sick & tired of the way both of my sons girlfriends/wife treat my family. It's always me first with these girls and they hate each other! Trying to get a family get togeather is impossible. This is my oldest son's anniversary..5 yrs. & she doesn't want to come over, unless she needs something. I have 8 grandkids between the 2 & they are "not allowed" to see each other
my boyfriend dumped me because he said he was tired and was going to face plant and i said thank you for asking about my day. he hung up on me and won't talk to me anymore. this is a man that said he wanted to grow older with me since we are in our 50's. wtf?????
It may not seem like it, but your feelings of anger is actually very normal. Suicide is the ultimate selfish act anyone can ever do to their survivors. I've had 2 relatives commmit suicide. One 23 years ago, the other one 15 months ago. I had so much anger towards them afterwards. One thing that helped me was to write a letter to them to let them know how angry I was at their selfishness, how angry I was at their lack of thinking of me and all the rest of us that have to live without them. A no holds barred kind of letter. When I finished each letter, I sealed it in an envelope, and I burned them in the sink. Knowing they'd never read the letter since they weren't here, but it felt so good to get all that anger off of my chest. I cried the deep body heaving kind of sobs afterwards too. The kind of crying I denied myself of doing for a long time. It did't bring them back. What I wrote in my letters was no one else's business. But it made me feel a lot better. I am still angry at them, but I'm not letting that anger eat at me anymore. Sorry to hear about your husband. :(
I'm sick & tired of my mom. I'm trying to loose 100lbs & so far I've lost 40. I feel like she is trying to compete against me. When I tell her I'm eating a certain way she then invites me to go out to dinner with stuff that I can't have. I feel like she is doing this on purpose. When we go shopping & I don't go to the plus sizes she then tells me that I need to go over to the bigger clothes because the smaller ones aren't going to fit me. It's all negative & it's just getting to the point where I'm tired of it & I'm about to set her straight. I love but grrrrr!!!!
WHEN IM AT CHURCH IT BOTHERS ME THAT SOMEONE COULD SIT THER AND EAT ,MAKE CHEWING NOISES ,CRUNCHING NOISES AND THINK IT'SOK!!! RIGHT NEXT TO ME THAT'S SO ANNOYING HOW COULD THEY EAT LIKE PIGS AND NOT THINK THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT ESPECIALLY WHEN THE PASTOR IS PREACHING!
Only God with his mercy, grace, wisdom, and discernment can heal you - pray for your mother because when you do not forgive someone it is the equivalent of murder according to the bible - I have read the verse. You can do it and you will be a new and better person for it. Trust me it has taken me years to forgive some people who have injured me without any reason at all - it is not easy but it is doable - trust in God not in yourself and you can forgive her.
My mother is a selfish, self serving woman who chooses to sleep with a married man and ignores her grandchildren. She will fly to Aruba, but won't take a 3 hour flight to know her grandchildren. 8 was molested by a neighbor for 5 years when I was little. I told her when I was 9 and never believed me. She was confronted with the proof at my Dad's funeral and still has not apologized for not believing me. How do I forgive her when she keeps hurting me and my kids?
Forgive her even if she doesnt ask to be forgiven as the bible says we must forgive... but thann move on without her a person like tht is some one u shouldnt even want near ur children.. dnt hurt them by forcing her in their lives... Let go of the past so tht u can focus in being the mother ur kids desserve and never let them down as ur mother did u... It will hurt to take her out of ur lives but it might give her time to reflect and find out tht it is possible for u to do better and all NO thanks to her... she will regret all of it one day when she needs u, by than may be ur heart has healed...
I wish people would walk my foot steps and no my thoughts befor judgeing me im a sigle mother of two kids 11 months apart i studie part time and my youngest is disabled he cant walk talk or feed him self i support my ex that is in rehad and im 23 years old my life is under engh stress with out the pressure of my family and friends that do not beleave in me iv a strong girl and can fo any think i put my heart and mind to support wouldnt go astay
Good for u! Sounds like u have a good head over ur shoulders and at ur age that is great... anything u need pray and ask for it in the name of Jesus Crist as tht is wht the bible says:)
U DO NOT HAVE TO KEEP NEGATIVE PPL IN UR LIFE!!! it doesnt matter if theyre family or ex's there r support groups out there to meet new ppl who might have some issues similar to urs. there r also mothers groups i went to one just becuz i had small children and have 2 of the best friends ive ever had from that group. idk where ur from but if u call social services im sure they could give u some info. that might be helpful. u have 2 small kids to take care of and ur right u do not need that added stress. ive had to kick ppl out of my life and yes some family members it can be done!!! stay strong for u and ur kids:))
Sounds like you EX is a loser... your fam is right, keep him around and he will drag ya down with him... you musta had drug issues too to have been with him bc i know for a fact its no fun to use alone!!! So im sure your not spilling the whole truth nor story here.. the judge based on ur decisions and drug use!
It irritates me to no end that men will pester the crap out of me for a date for months or sometimes even years, and then I finally decide to give them a chance and they do one of 2 things. 1. They either chicken out and cancel the date, or 2. They act like I've got the plague because I finally gave them a chance. After being in a horrible relationship for many years, I'm hesitant to just go out and get hurt all over again, so I'm hesitant about dating. I tell guys that upfront. I'm not being aloof. I'm not trying to be difficult. Not trying to be a tease. Just trying not to let my heart be abused again. Them chickening out or treating me like I was the one pestering them in the first place makes me even more cautious about dating. It might be a thrill of the chase that makes them keep pestering me, but I do not want to be chased! I want respect. I want to be treated like a human being. Is either of those 2 things too much to ask for? :(
dating is just that...dating. u dont have to put everything out there on the first date! dont move too fast. keep it light have FUN. save the serious stuff for later maybe if u really start to like the person ur seeing. but u wont know that on the first date :))
lol, I don't put out on the first date.;) I've talked to these guys for awhile and everything is light-hearted, non-serious, etc. Then when I finally decide to give them a chance, heck to give myself a chance, they either cancel out on me or ignore our friendship altogether if we do go out. Nothing about me has changed. I'm the same person they were interested in. I'm not clingy, I don't pester them. I act the same after a date as I did beforehand. The only thing I can think of it's the thrill of the chase. I'd much rather not be chased if that's all they're wanting to do. Thanks for the advise. I do try to have fun and keep things light. I try to be the true me they were interested in.
I wish my boss and my ex bf would drop off of the face of the earth or just spontaneously combust :P - I wish Zynga would stop being greedy bastards and return my 88 missing FC and I wish politicians would stop acting like children and work together to make things better for everyone in this country and not just for themselves - and I want everyone to be happy and I wish that no one soul, human or animal would every feel hungry, thirsty, cold, or unloved and that they all have a loving supportive happy home :)
Wish I could go back to college and get my RN degree and become a midwife. It has been my dream and I have put it on the shelf for the past 18 years. My husband is retiring from the military and we are relocating to another state. One of our children has been accepted to the college of their dreams, and I will need to work in the career that I hate so that they can have their dream and not graduate college with student loan debt.
u need to go for it!!! its ur time now ur husband had his career ur kid is a grownup now, becoming a nurse was the best thing i did in my life i loved being a nurse today health problems prevent that and i miss it terribly. ur husband and child will always need u but u may as well be doing something u love then u can help them better :))
my daughter is 32 yrs. old and has a major problem with relationships!! she has a real nice guy now but she keeps comparing him to her ex and he feels bad and i watch her 2 yr. old all the time it gets very frustrating i dont know how to help her she gets very defensive when i try to tell her something...she takes it as im critising her??
I am so tired of seeing all these women having kids that they can not afford. And then living off welfare. Birth control is free at the health dept. Stop having kids for everyone else to support... Get off your ass and find a job. Do something productive with your lives. The government is not giving free money, it is being taken from the rest of us who work and pay in. It is not my place to support you sorry butt. Do you not have any respect your yourself ????? And don't even get me started on the sorry no count men who are drawing disability when they are as able to work as I am. If you are to sorry to live, you just need to end it and stop being a burden on society.!!!!!!
i am married to a man that i don't love but have tried to love. we have been together for almost 11 years. he cares for me as well as i care for him, but we don't have the love for each other as a husband and wife. for most of the years we were together, i ignored the things about him that i did not agree with. i put aside my feelings and my kids feelings to keep him satisfied. i changed my lifestyle for him. i tried so hard to keep because i liked the stability. as i grow older, i am realizing how miserable, how miserable my kids are, and how miserable he is. i have always noticed how miserable he is, but thought i could help him to look at life in a different way, but he refuses. he is ignorant when it comes to raising kids with mental problems. my son is bi-polar and he thinks it is all in his mind, and does not realize he cannot control his outbursts. i am a miserable person, that wants to be happy again and want to see my kids happy, but we have a child together that cries when i mention leaving. people will judge me harshly if i leave him. also, he is illiterate and i will feel bad leaving him. he is an all out nice person, we simply don't have the same views on life. he also gets crazy mad if i have a different opinion than he does, and he is forever dogging my adult children.wow- that's a lot! and i still have more to say.
Im in the same boat :( but for 20yrs... everyone tells me that I have to think of the well being of the children. & i agree, but your child has a condition that he "refuses" to understand... i told my hub that when he is becoming more of "the problem" then help our children then thats when i leave & that always seems to put things into prospective for him. I understand you more then you know. if i had some place to go I would...
You may be my daughter but YES I reported you for child abuse and will do so again if you do NOT keep your fists to yourself. I WILL take your children off you if given half a chance legally because they deserve better than you.
You were NEVER abused in any way shape or form growing up so reach down into your history girl and figure out and remember how to be a damn good parent. Love your babies!
I'm a stay at home mom to a special needs child and her dad helps me do nothing he throws his clothes everywhere leaves his dishes all over the house he will waste stuff or drop something on the floor and just leave it there when I tell him something about any of it he just ignores me and does nothing about it.....I feel like I'm just a maid, a slave, a piece of trash bc he doesn't respect how hard I work to keep the house clean
I am a mom who is worried about her son, I had to kick him out on count of his actions. He was getting totally out of control with his behavior. I have seeked help for him several times and was on meds but he was refusing to take them. What else can a mother do? He left went to live with relatives and then they alsoo started fighting. Last I heard from him he was out on the streets trying to get to Ok, said he had a place to go and work waiting. But in mean time he is without shelter and food. I am so worried about him but also affaird with how his actions are that I cant let him back in my house. He threatened to do harm to me and his siters along with other family memebers. I pray every day for his safety and for him to get better in his life. Please help me understand what I can do for my son. I love him but I could only do so much before I lost my sanity and lost my daughters to violent behavoir.
i feel for u!! u will always worry about ur son but it sounds like u made the right decision!! try to just put ur guilt aside it does NO good u cant live with someone who threatens u and ur other children just remember tough love!!! just keep on praying he gets help under the circumstances theres nothing else u can for ur son right now stay strong!!!
I feel your pain- it is so gut wrenching when our kids are sabotaging their lives. You are doing the best thing. So sorry for your grief. Hope you can detach from that situation and enjoy your life and your other children as much as you can.
i just want to live a normal life with a normal family. just me and kids and my husband. i want to be happy and contented. i want to be alone with my family again.
What do you do when the woman you love is a manic depressive and she is convinced she is worthless no matter how hard you try to convince her differently..... She refuses therapy.. quit her job and crys more than smiles...
Sounds like clinical depression. Do you belong to a church? Is there a pastor you can speak to? I applaud you for loving her through this. She really is in her own prison. God bless.
That is really tough, you can't force her to seek help...I would say the very best you can do for her is pray. Pray for wisdom for yourself and pray for deliverance for her. I will pray for you both. God bless...He will bless you and keep you for honoring your comittment to her.
Will she pray with you? I hate that someone or something has made her feel less than she is. If she has accepted Jesus, she IS the daughter of the King. If she will pray with you, remind her of that.
I was clinically depressed for 5 years. Is she taking medication for it? If not she really needs to. and maybe councelling too? And sorry to say but praying is NOT going to help this one bit. It is a medical condition that needs treating!!!
Been married for almost 25 years to a man who has mentally, verbally and emotionally abused me. So sick and tired of it. Want to leave but no where to go, stayed home and raised 4 kids so don't have up to date experience for a job that would pay a good wage, etc., so I just stay. Loneliness is a constant in my life. Have 2 kids left at home that are 18 & 21. When the oldest moves out I am going to make her room as my own bedroom. The only thing that keeps me going is my wonderful children. There is so much more to say but it would take forever.
I had an affair with my married boss for almost a year. We got caught, and he told his wife and they moved back to where they were originally from. I'm still a little upset over the whole thing, I feel bad but think about him all the time. I just can't get over him. He never said goodbye to me so it hurts because I need closure. I dont know what to do to forget about the whole situation and move on.
Shall we face some reality together because you seem immune to it on your own. Honey he used you for sex and flattery. End of. Of course he never said goodbye. That would never have entered his mind. You were never important enough to him. Move on and find a SINGLE guy
I slept with my best friend. It was HORRIBLE! He's small down there. He shot off like a speeding bullet. It lasted under 2 minutes. Now he's begging me to do it again. I tell him no but he keeps begging! He thinks a pill will make it better but I know for a fact it won't. He can't stroke it how I like. I tried telling him nicely but it's not sinking in. If he asks me again I'm going to tell him how I really feel about his lousy performance!
Am sick n tired of every1 taking me 4 granted!! have decided 2 turn in2 a selfish biatch n c how many ppl stick around!! am goina look after who matters the most....my 2 gorgeous bbys!! feck itttttttttttttt
I know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
Let me start by saying I survived an abusing 30 year marriage, he cheated on me and was an alcoholic and was abusive mentally, verbally, and physically. It took me way too many years to finally get up and leave because I thought he would change. Well I have a secret no one knows. All the time he was cheating on me and abusing me, he was passed out one night right before I left and his younger brother came over and made some moves on me, I took him up on that deal because if he ever found out, he might feel a tenth of what I felt all these years. I got nothing out of the marriage but the clothes on my back. Now I have a car, and am going back to school, it's my turn now!
I cut myself and i dont feel that i can trust anyone enough to tell them. I dont let anyone see the inside of my thighs. I dont know how to stop. I have scars over scars. I lost count of how many times ive cut myself. I feel so lonely and thats the only way I can let some of these feelings go.
I wish men who cheat on their wives and then blame everyone else for their problems would get a clue. they get on fb, read a comment and automatically think its about them. probably because they have a guilty conscience. another story: ex pastors who retire and then try to preach at that same church every chance they get then act all offended when they are asked to find a different church...totally arogant and clueless
This isn't going to be a "Show us your skeletons" in the closet is it? Yuck. Not what I expected at all. Sorry, but was Facebook having a fit again? I like your stuff, I hope it won't go by the wayside.
i have bad insomnia and it is completely taking over my life and making my health decline. i high blood pressure, and heart disease because of it. my palpitations happen often. i tell people i sleep an hour or two but all i do is lay in bed and pray to sleep. Insomnia makes me grumpy as it is but if i am having a bad day it is worse because of my bipolar. i feel so bad for my family having to deal with me but i can not take meds because when i have tried them i have been caught sleep walking and trying to drive. I don't take the melatonin because it doesnt work. warm drinks, nyquil, reading, movies, night masks, new beds, changed eating habits,......i have done it all and nothing. i am doomed for the rest of my life and i am only 30.
God is so good. No, I'm not a religious fanatic. Just happy to be on this side of the dirt, and to wake up with a sound (well , almost sound) mind, have use of my arms and legs, have an AWESOME daughter, good friends and family. I have problems, and quite a few of them. But nothing that isn't do-able. Thank you, God for being so good to me.
I know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
Needing to vent and hopefully feel better afterwards.
Guess I'm feeling semi-suicidal today. Just wanting all the pain and craziness in my head to stop. Meds aren't working. Praying non stop. Afraid to talk to anyone about what's going on in my head, anyone at all. This is ridiculous. I'm too old for this. Been doing so well. Don't even want to just cut. This too shall pass, so they tell me. One way or another it will pass.
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DeleteDumbass men who have a good woman they work hard to get the woman and once they have her they start slacking best believe another man is waiting to take his place....and women be getting on my nerves y u gonna wanna change to suit ur man especialy if u so damn beautiful know ur worth move on stop kissing these dumbass frogs notice the quiet guy in the corner who has nothing he will treat like the princess u are stop chasing money be confident whooooo that felt good thanks
Deleteshutup and stop judging people,people like you irk me seriously with their judgemental attitudes dont judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes.
DeleteLeave him. I was in exact same situation but 15 yrs together. It's scary n hard but leave. It's 1 yr since I left n life's alot better. I go out see places etc etc. all he did was watch tv. We r still friends. Have the courage to get out n make urself happy. Ur not responsible for his life,he is
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ReplyDeleteLife litterally just sucks.. ain't nothing good about it at all
ReplyDeletelife is what you make it. There are always people with bigger problems than you. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Or the cancer ward at a hospital. Count your blessings.
DeleteI hope the person you just posted this reply to isn't someone suffering from, let's just go with plain old depression. Depression is an ILLNESS. Depression is no different from diabetes, cancer, cerebral palsy. Depression is not something one controls. Depression is caused by a reduction in certain neurotransmitters in the brain, such as serotonin and norepinephrine. So unless you can show me that you are capable of reaching into your brain and adding or reducing needed neurotransmitters then don't you dare ever tell someone with a disease to go volunteer at a CANCER WARD!!! You jackass.
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ReplyDeleteWISH I COULD GO BACK TO CALIFORNIA, I MISS HOME AND WANT TO GET A NEW START:(
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ReplyDeleteWanna know what pisses me off???? Adults who act like children and think the world revolves around them! And back stabbing "friends", and stupid people who think the world owes them something! That's all for now!
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ReplyDeletei wish i could just pack my daughter up and move far away im tired of being judged for my past. for having a reputation that i dont even know what the reputation is. im tired of peoples parents hating me because of my past or because i have a child. i work hard and do the best possible damn job i can living at home to raise my daughter my way and that should be respected not looked down upon. i may be young but im a mother non the less. if i wanna marry someone because im in love with them thats my business dont question my reasoning im in love for christs sakes thats why you marry someone for love. there may be pluses but the real reason is for love. so stop questioning me and accept me for who i am and what my future holds not my past! its the past for a reason damn it
ReplyDeleteJust make sure ur getting married for the right reasons,ur future is in ur hands:)
DeleteRegarding your past, the people that matter, don't mind. The people who mind, don't matter! Make u and your daughter happy...get married if that is what you want, those judging, don't gotta walk in your shoes! Keep your head up:)
Deleteyou get married for love dont you and thats why i want to do it..i shouldve known he was second guessing he wants to wait to please his mother...and i guess im okay with it i just thought maybe for once things were going to go my way..and your right the people that matter dont mind but in my case the people in his life that matter do mind and thats what hurts..ive been used abused cheated on raped and all of that they dont know and they dont want to understand they just hold my past against with me without really knowing anything about it!! i have raised my daughter on my own since day one even though her father was in the picture he was a dead beat who was sleeping around the entire time we were dating i was pregnant and while we were engaged and married and i didnt believe it i was trying to do what i thought was best and then i couldnt anymore he got married 6 days after we got divorced if he gets to be happy dont i??
DeleteSo I'm really tired of people and media trying to force people to accept the lifestyle of homosexuals. If you say you don't approve then everyone want to jump down your head. A person don't have to accept that lifestyle if they don't want to. I love the person....not the homosexual lifestyle (that's the difference)...it goes against God word.
ReplyDeleteYeah, put your head in the sand for another 100 years ya dumb Jesus loving freak!! If you talk like you write then your from the south or just plain dumb!
DeleteI know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
DeleteSorry, I have no idea how I screwed up and posted this under your comment and I don't know how to delete it. Please accept my apologies.
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ReplyDeleteI love him and it kills me to have to see him everyday at work smiling and talking like nothings wrong. I show up everyday looking great, smiling and acting like the big girl I'm supposed to be while I feel helpless and hopeless on the inside. I pray I get another job soon so I can put him behind me.
ReplyDeleteIF YOU LOVE HIM..WHY ARE YOU HELPLESS AND HOPELESS TO LEAVE?
Deletehe doesnt love me and I need the job
DeleteI have fallen in love with another man while I'm married. I wasn't looking for love because my husband loves me dearly. This man I have fallen in love with has opened my eyes to many things about myself, as well as what I am lacking in my marriage. I'm lost and very confused on what I should do now. I have put 10 years of my life into this marriage and now want to walk away to be with this man that have grown to love in only 2 months. Sounds crazy, but it's real. I no longer question the love I feel, I question whether or not walking away from my marriage to be with this man that's willing to give me the happiness I deserve..?..
ReplyDeleteeveryone deserves to be truly happy sweetie and love comes and finds us when were not looking. i wish i could say its easy to walk away but its not i was in a commited relationship for 3 years and i walked away because i feel in love with someone else and mine was shorter more like a couple days kind of thing so i know how you feel. but honey you deserve true happiness and sometimes we have to think about whats best for us and not for others.
DeleteThank you. My problem is, I have always put others happiness before my own. This is called people pleasing Did it work out for you?
DeleteYeh I agree you need to really think about that you might just be caught up on the thought of something new and enjoying the excitement of it right now! Make sure he your mr right and not your mr right now! Seriously we all like the thought of falling in love again becuz of the rush see if you can try and fall in love with your husband all over of not the case at least keep it real with him! J/s
Deletewe all need to be happy and loved the way we need to be loved.whomever you chose ,chose the one you want to spend the rest of your life with..the one that make you feel the way you need to feel.Do what is best for you.Give it time and time will tell all.Don't be quick to judge. Go find your happiness, we all deserve that unfortunately, we all cant find it,if you found it got for it and go with your heart.good luck..prayers to you..
DeleteI am in the same situation except I have been married almost 17 years. I married my husband too fast. I had just gotten out of a dysfunctional 6 year relationship and it was so great to have something "normal" that before I knew it, I was engaged within 6 months and married 6 months later. I've never been happy and have met someone that I've known almost two years and I am crazy crazy about him. I have taken more time to get to know him than I did my husband. I want to leave SO bad but I've always done what makes other people happy and if I do something for myself, then I'm "selfish". My husband loves me very much but I'm not in love with him.
Deleteppl need to stop being racist and get a life! this isn't 150yrs. ago!!!
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ReplyDeletewish my family were not all drug heads mom has 8 kids and 6 are on drugs and 2 dont even raise there own kids and the reason 6 of em are on drugs is because she got them on it if ppl realllly new how screwed up my damn family is they would have us put away!!the only reason 2 of us arent on drugs is because my dad raised us when she left him she left me and my brother best thing she ever did!!!wish my dad was still here i miss him he was the only person i could talk to:(but i guess thats life you never know what your going to get...
ReplyDeleteI wish they weren't drug heads too ! Try to get some support and hang in there it gets better! Lived with an alcoholic dad and raging sister. Once I grew up I had to work through it but am glad it's over. Keep the faith!
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ReplyDeleteWell I hate. Hate crazy women who think they should force a man to stay with them who monitor phone calls with t let him talk to his mother... and when he says he wants to leave she says oh my step dad is a cop ill tell them your abusing me and you'll get arrested and go to jail.... some people are just demented and as sad it sounds I hope he gives her one good punch knocks her the fuck out and walks out the door
ReplyDeleteI was gang raped over 15 yrs ago I have been depressed and suicudal for all these years but through therapy I have to forgive them but its so hard
ReplyDeleteDo ur best to put tht behind u the ruined ur life in the past why let them continue to be even a part of ur present... The bible says to forgive those wo have sinned against u... Im sorry that that happened to you.... Please let it go, hate is poison to ur soul and life has much more to offer:)
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DeleteI don't think you need to forgive those who harmed you so harshly. I know people say that forgiveness isn't for them it's for you, but I think that is a bunch of bullshit. The best gift you can give yourself is living well and doing your best despite what happened to you!!! Don't continue to be a victim! Trust me I know it's easier said then done, but you deserve to give yourself the opportunity of the best life possible and have to believe that!!!!
DeleteEasier said than done. Why must people always put religion out there. If you haven't experienced the pain and abuse how can you share such words of wisdom? You have no idea until you have lived with it. Thanks for trying and I feel for the person that has gone through this because I deal with it everyday. Forgiving is easy, forgetting is hard.
DeleteAs a matter of fact I have gone through it.
DeleteThnx for y'all inputs I really appreciate it each day is a struggle for me to put it in the past but I find it very hard to forgive them although it happened many years ago it still haunts me as if it just occurred they have ruined my life and trust in relationship with men's but I feel like why should I forgive them when they were the one who mentally and physically destroyed my life
DeleteI'm tired of my life. Sometimes, when I'm walking down the street, the thought of 'accidentally' walking in front of an oncoming car crosses my mind on multiple occasions. I'm just too much of a coward to do it.
ReplyDeletewell continue to be a coward then. it would make things worse for those around you. you are here for a reason. keep your head up and look for inspiration in books of positive thinking and it can change you, it has changed me. your not alone
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ReplyDeleteWow this is great! I may visit this sight often! lol
ReplyDeleteProving i'm not a robot is going to get old real fast tho!
ReplyDeleteNo shit! Settling gets old. LIVE because life is too short not 2.
DeleteMy man of 11 years cheated on me with a woman that eats pussy for a living and she does it for $.50 yes fifty cents.
ReplyDeleteI know a man that loves eating pussy and he's good at it tooooo. Just thinking about it makes me toes curl lol.
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DeleteDamn. I would like to meet him. My help lower my stress level!!!
Deletei know the feeling i go for walks alot just thinking of walking in front of a car to just make life easier for those around me!
ReplyDeleteit would make things worse for those around you. you are here for a reason. keep your head up and look for inspiration in books of positive thinking and it can change you, it has changed me. your not alone
Deletei have tried everthing but even things start going right for me in my life everything always takes a turn for the worst how do you believe your meant to be here when everything is always going wrong!
Deletei broke up with my ex because of the bad hips shaking a dn lack of privacy....the one i have now (even tho i love her) is irritating sometimes. :(
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DeleteI have a real good one for you...what in the hell do you do when you open your heart and home to a 55 year old uncle that is in bad health and just had surgery on a 99% clogged artery in the neck, and now a month later when he gets his pain pills and zanexes filled he is staying so fucked up that he cant even walk without stumbling into everything within a 3 foot radius....not to mention I have 4 children that I do not want exposed to these actions, but no one else in the family will step up and he will be homeless if I kick him out. I have also found pills in the floor and down in the couch. What steps can someone take to get help in this situation?
ReplyDeleteSocail services may be able to help you out. This is NOT your problem, this is his.
Deletego to social services and tell them the story and explain he needs a place to stay and help. they will give you all the info and then you can explain to the uncle that he needs a better situation than he has with you and you have found some help for him. then take him to social services/housing and say he has to move out with in a month so they know you have a deadline and they need to place him in an apartment, a resthome or a nursing home. i hope this helps you. keep your head up. sincerly,bean
Deleteso sorry to hear that your uncle sounds just like my mom she gets her pain meds and zanex and stays so fucked up until there all gone she 60 yrs old and i just dont know what to do with her,i have 3 kids but only 2 still live at home and i hate that they have to see there grandmother like that well if you can call her a grandmother she cares more about her pills than anyone are anything:(
Deletecall a rehab center and try to set up an intervention have u watched the show intervention?? its very helpful and they have numbers u can call at the end also good luck and i agree ur kids dont need to see that :((
Deleteok, i am so tired of listening to people say they need money, they are losing their house, the kids need or WANT stuff but then they sit there on their ass and do nothing. they won't go get a job because they are lazy and 'have trouble working with people and i always get in trouble, and i don't feel good'. IT IS ALL BECAUSE YOUR TO F*CKING LAZY AND WANT TO BE PAMPERED FROM YOUR HUSBAND WHO IS ON DISABILITY. i love you but you are seriously ridiculous with your excuses. oooooo but wait you can buy fast food and order delivery and go out to eat and buy stuff over the internet and waste the whole day on the computer doing NOTHING THAT WILL MAKE YOU MONEY but just spend money all day and night. you dont clean or cook and your children are up all day and night. and if your kid doesnt go to school then why are they hanging out with their boyfriends and friends and going out? OMG IT IS SO STRESSFUL TO BE YOUR FRIEND BUT I AM LOYAL to a fault.
ReplyDeletethanks for letting me vent
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DeleteI know people like that too! They eat at restaurants and buy expensive purses! Can't feel sympathy for them at all!!!
Deleteeveryone has troubles and deals with them in their own way. some people have a 'mental issue' that holds them back and they may not know it. therapy could help them. If people complain that they are broke and have money issues then they shold not be going out and buying things like fast food, quick check 7-11 stops, purses, going to restaurants every week. BUT if they are not complaining on a regular basis then say la vie. let it be. again we are all having money issues but you can not complain if your are spending like your rich. family and housing come first. good luck
DeleteI'm sick & tired of the way both of my sons girlfriends/wife treat my family. It's always me first with these girls and they hate each other! Trying to get a family get togeather is impossible. This is my oldest son's anniversary..5 yrs. & she doesn't want to come over, unless she needs something. I have 8 grandkids between the 2 & they are "not allowed" to see each other
ReplyDeleteI hate fake friends, I hate acquaintances. You know my pain, you know my suffering but you act as if you dont see me at all.
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to hold you tomorrow! ;)
ReplyDeleteDITTO !!! :)
DeleteNicole the mole at FCA - what a shame - what people will do out of envy!!!!
ReplyDeletemy boyfriend dumped me because he said he was tired and was going to face plant and i said thank you for asking about my day. he hung up on me and won't talk to me anymore. this is a man that said he wanted to grow older with me since we are in our 50's. wtf?????
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DeleteI hate that my husband chose to end his life and leave me here to deal with all this shit!
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DeleteIt will be a year Monday that he has been gone. I miss him so much, so much that it makes me angry!
Deletei hear that mine did same thing a year ago on the 8th april im pissed im lonely and im scared hang in there its gotta get better
DeleteIt may not seem like it, but your feelings of anger is actually very normal. Suicide is the ultimate selfish act anyone can ever do to their survivors. I've had 2 relatives commmit suicide. One 23 years ago, the other one 15 months ago. I had so much anger towards them afterwards. One thing that helped me was to write a letter to them to let them know how angry I was at their selfishness, how angry I was at their lack of thinking of me and all the rest of us that have to live without them. A no holds barred kind of letter. When I finished each letter, I sealed it in an envelope, and I burned them in the sink. Knowing they'd never read the letter since they weren't here, but it felt so good to get all that anger off of my chest. I cried the deep body heaving kind of sobs afterwards too. The kind of crying I denied myself of doing for a long time. It did't bring them back. What I wrote in my letters was no one else's business. But it made me feel a lot better. I am still angry at them, but I'm not letting that anger eat at me anymore. Sorry to hear about your husband. :(
DeleteI'm sick & tired of my mom. I'm trying to loose 100lbs & so far I've lost 40. I feel like she is trying to compete against me. When I tell her I'm eating a certain way she then invites me to go out to dinner with stuff that I can't have. I feel like she is doing this on purpose. When we go shopping & I don't go to the plus sizes she then tells me that I need to go over to the bigger clothes because the smaller ones aren't going to fit me. It's all negative & it's just getting to the point where I'm tired of it & I'm about to set her straight. I love but grrrrr!!!!
ReplyDeleteHit her upside the head with the scale
DeleteWant to loose weight. Try not putting shit in it and then shit won't gather on your butt.
DeleteCan't stand drunks, o that would b my husband ,, loud ,rude, and don't forget obnoxious.. gd,,he's such a Dick!!
ReplyDeleteWHEN IM AT CHURCH IT BOTHERS ME THAT SOMEONE COULD SIT THER AND EAT ,MAKE CHEWING NOISES ,CRUNCHING NOISES AND THINK IT'SOK!!! RIGHT NEXT TO ME THAT'S SO ANNOYING HOW COULD THEY EAT LIKE PIGS AND NOT THINK THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT ESPECIALLY WHEN THE PASTOR IS PREACHING!
ReplyDeleteMy husband slept with another woman this past weekend and I'm okay with it.
ReplyDeleteAre you still in love with him?
DeleteOnly God with his mercy, grace, wisdom, and discernment can heal you - pray for your mother because when you do not forgive someone it is the equivalent of murder according to the bible - I have read the verse. You can do it and you will be a new and better person for it. Trust me it has taken me years to forgive some people who have injured me without any reason at all - it is not easy but it is doable - trust in God not in yourself and you can forgive her.
DeleteWhy? Are you that bad in bed???
DeleteAre you swingers?
DeleteMy mother is a selfish, self serving woman who chooses to sleep with a married man and ignores her grandchildren. She will fly to Aruba, but won't take a 3 hour flight to know her grandchildren. 8 was molested by a neighbor for 5 years when I was little. I told her when I was 9 and never believed me. She was confronted with the proof at my Dad's funeral and still has not apologized for not believing me. How do I forgive her when she keeps hurting me and my kids?
ReplyDeleteForgive her even if she doesnt ask to be forgiven as the bible says we must forgive... but thann move on without her a person like tht is some one u shouldnt even want near ur children.. dnt hurt them by forcing her in their lives... Let go of the past so tht u can focus in being the mother ur kids desserve and never let them down as ur mother did u... It will hurt to take her out of ur lives but it might give her time to reflect and find out tht it is possible for u to do better and all NO thanks to her... she will regret all of it one day when she needs u, by than may be ur heart has healed...
DeleteNice site I hope it gives some kind of relief to everyone who post their concerns or issues:)
ReplyDeleteTY..I HOPE SO TO !! :)
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ReplyDeleteHere a happy note, Why can't everybody just get along!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI wish people would walk my foot steps and no my thoughts befor judgeing me im a sigle mother of two kids 11 months apart i studie part time and my youngest is disabled he cant walk talk or feed him self i support my ex that is in rehad and im 23 years old my life is under engh stress with out the pressure of my family and friends that do not beleave in me iv a strong girl and can fo any think i put my heart and mind to support wouldnt go astay
ReplyDeleteGood for u! Sounds like u have a good head over ur shoulders and at ur age that is great... anything u need pray and ask for it in the name of Jesus Crist as tht is wht the bible says:)
DeleteU DO NOT HAVE TO KEEP NEGATIVE PPL IN UR LIFE!!! it doesnt matter if theyre family or ex's there r support groups out there to meet new ppl who might have some issues similar to urs. there r also mothers groups i went to one just becuz i had small children and have 2 of the best friends ive ever had from that group. idk where ur from but if u call social services im sure they could give u some info. that might be helpful. u have 2 small kids to take care of and ur right u do not need that added stress. ive had to kick ppl out of my life and yes some family members it can be done!!! stay strong for u and ur kids:))
DeleteSounds like you EX is a loser... your fam is right, keep him around and he will drag ya down with him... you musta had drug issues too to have been with him bc i know for a fact its no fun to use alone!!! So im sure your not spilling the whole truth nor story here.. the judge based on ur decisions and drug use!
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DeleteIt irritates me to no end that men will pester the crap out of me for a date for months or sometimes even years, and then I finally decide to give them a chance and they do one of 2 things. 1. They either chicken out and cancel the date, or 2. They act like I've got the plague because I finally gave them a chance. After being in a horrible relationship for many years, I'm hesitant to just go out and get hurt all over again, so I'm hesitant about dating. I tell guys that upfront. I'm not being aloof. I'm not trying to be difficult. Not trying to be a tease. Just trying not to let my heart be abused again. Them chickening out or treating me like I was the one pestering them in the first place makes me even more cautious about dating. It might be a thrill of the chase that makes them keep pestering me, but I do not want to be chased! I want respect. I want to be treated like a human being. Is either of those 2 things too much to ask for? :(
ReplyDeletedating is just that...dating. u dont have to put everything out there on the first date! dont move too fast. keep it light have FUN. save the serious stuff for later maybe if u really start to like the person ur seeing. but u wont know that on the first date :))
Deletelol, I don't put out on the first date.;) I've talked to these guys for awhile and everything is light-hearted, non-serious, etc. Then when I finally decide to give them a chance, heck to give myself a chance, they either cancel out on me or ignore our friendship altogether if we do go out. Nothing about me has changed. I'm the same person they were interested in. I'm not clingy, I don't pester them. I act the same after a date as I did beforehand. The only thing I can think of it's the thrill of the chase. I'd much rather not be chased if that's all they're wanting to do. Thanks for the advise. I do try to have fun and keep things light. I try to be the true me they were interested in.
Deletelol good to hear!! yes some ppl like the chase. just forget them and meet new ppl more fun that way!!
DeleteI wish my boss and my ex bf would drop off of the face of the earth or just spontaneously combust :P - I wish Zynga would stop being greedy bastards and return my 88 missing FC and I wish politicians would stop acting like children and work together to make things better for everyone in this country and not just for themselves - and I want everyone to be happy and I wish that no one soul, human or animal would every feel hungry, thirsty, cold, or unloved and that they all have a loving supportive happy home :)
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ReplyDeleteWish I could go back to college and get my RN degree and become a midwife. It has been my dream and I have put it on the shelf for the past 18 years. My husband is retiring from the military and we are relocating to another state. One of our children has been accepted to the college of their dreams, and I will need to work in the career that I hate so that they can have their dream and not graduate college with student loan debt.
ReplyDeleteu need to go for it!!! its ur time now ur husband had his career ur kid is a grownup now, becoming a nurse was the best thing i did in my life i loved being a nurse today health problems prevent that and i miss it terribly. ur husband and child will always need u but u may as well be doing something u love then u can help them better :))
DeleteMy husband wants to have sex with me after 2 years of none because he's terminally ill. Not so sure how I feel about that ???
ReplyDeleteRide that thing girlfriend!
DeleteThanks :) Think I might just do. That
DeleteI would! Double AA's get boring after awhile. ;)
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ReplyDeletemy daughter is 32 yrs. old and has a major problem with relationships!! she has a real nice guy now but she keeps comparing him to her ex and he feels bad and i watch her 2 yr. old all the time it gets very frustrating i dont know how to help her she gets very defensive when i try to tell her something...she takes it as im critising her??
ReplyDeleteI am so tired of seeing all these women having kids that they can not afford. And then living off welfare. Birth control is free at the health dept. Stop having kids for everyone else to support... Get off your ass and find a job. Do something productive with your lives. The government is not giving free money, it is being taken from the rest of us who work and pay in. It is not my place to support you sorry butt. Do you not have any respect your yourself ????? And don't even get me started on the sorry no count men who are drawing disability when they are as able to work as I am. If you are to sorry to live, you just need to end it and stop being a burden on society.!!!!!!
ReplyDeletei am married to a man that i don't love but have tried to love. we have been together for almost 11 years. he cares for me as well as i care for him, but we don't have the love for each other as a husband and wife. for most of the years we were together, i ignored the things about him that i did not agree with. i put aside my feelings and my kids feelings to keep him satisfied. i changed my lifestyle for him. i tried so hard to keep because i liked the stability. as i grow older, i am realizing how miserable, how miserable my kids are, and how miserable he is. i have always noticed how miserable he is, but thought i could help him to look at life in a different way, but he refuses. he is ignorant when it comes to raising kids with mental problems. my son is bi-polar and he thinks it is all in his mind, and does not realize he cannot control his outbursts. i am a miserable person, that wants to be happy again and want to see my kids happy, but we have a child together that cries when i mention leaving. people will judge me harshly if i leave him. also, he is illiterate and i will feel bad leaving him. he is an all out nice person, we simply don't have the same views on life. he also gets crazy mad if i have a different opinion than he does, and he is forever dogging my adult children.wow- that's a lot! and i still have more to say.
ReplyDeleteIm in the same boat :( but for 20yrs... everyone tells me that I have to think of the well being of the children. & i agree, but your child has a condition that he "refuses" to understand... i told my hub that when he is becoming more of "the problem" then help our children then thats when i leave & that always seems to put things into prospective for him. I understand you more then you know. if i had some place to go I would...
DeleteYou may be my daughter but YES I reported you for child abuse and will do so again if you do NOT keep your fists to yourself. I WILL take your children off you if given half a chance legally because they deserve better than you.
ReplyDeleteYou were NEVER abused in any way shape or form growing up so reach down into your history girl and figure out and remember how to be a damn good parent. Love your babies!
Your daughter doesn't deserve to have her babies if she beats them. Good for you for turning her in and taking care of those innocent babies!
DeleteWay to be for those grandbabies!!!!
DeleteI'm a stay at home mom to a special needs child and her dad helps me do nothing he throws his clothes everywhere leaves his dishes all over the house he will waste stuff or drop something on the floor and just leave it there when I tell him something about any of it he just ignores me and does nothing about it.....I feel like I'm just a maid, a slave, a piece of trash bc he doesn't respect how hard I work to keep the house clean
ReplyDeleteI am a mom who is worried about her son, I had to kick him out on count of his actions. He was getting totally out of control with his behavior. I have seeked help for him several times and was on meds but he was refusing to take them. What else can a mother do? He left went to live with relatives and then they alsoo started fighting. Last I heard from him he was out on the streets trying to get to Ok, said he had a place to go and work waiting. But in mean time he is without shelter and food. I am so worried about him but also affaird with how his actions are that I cant let him back in my house. He threatened to do harm to me and his siters along with other family memebers. I pray every day for his safety and for him to get better in his life. Please help me understand what I can do for my son. I love him but I could only do so much before I lost my sanity and lost my daughters to violent behavoir.
ReplyDeletei feel for u!! u will always worry about ur son but it sounds like u made the right decision!! try to just put ur guilt aside it does NO good u cant live with someone who threatens u and ur other children just remember tough love!!! just keep on praying he gets help under the circumstances theres nothing else u can for ur son right now stay strong!!!
DeleteI feel your pain- it is so gut wrenching when our kids are sabotaging their lives. You are doing the best thing. So sorry for your grief. Hope you can detach from that situation and enjoy your life and your other children as much as you can.
Deletei just want to live a normal life with a normal family. just me and kids and my husband. i want to be happy and contented. i want to be alone with my family again.
ReplyDeleteI hate being tested ! It is what it is Acceptance !!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat do you do when the woman you love is a manic depressive and she is convinced she is worthless no matter how hard you try to convince her differently..... She refuses therapy.. quit her job and crys more than smiles...
ReplyDeleteSounds like clinical depression. Do you belong to a church? Is there a pastor you can speak to? I applaud you for loving her through this. She really is in her own prison. God bless.
DeleteI love her dearly and she wouldn't ...talk to a pastor about it... She needs help and I really do want to help her get thru it
DeleteShe just seems willing to accept that she is less than what she is... And I am not willing to accept that...
DeleteThat is really tough, you can't force her to seek help...I would say the very best you can do for her is pray. Pray for wisdom for yourself and pray for deliverance for her. I will pray for you both. God bless...He will bless you and keep you for honoring your comittment to her.
DeleteWill she pray with you? I hate that someone or something has made her feel less than she is. If she has accepted Jesus, she IS the daughter of the King. If she will pray with you, remind her of that.
DeleteI was clinically depressed for 5 years. Is she taking medication for it? If not she really needs to. and maybe councelling too? And sorry to say but praying is NOT going to help this one bit. It is a medical condition that needs treating!!!
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ReplyDeleteI'm tired of always having to be the strong one. The one who lets everybody else not be accountable for their actions. I'm just plain worn out.
ReplyDeleteBeen married for almost 25 years to a man who has mentally, verbally and emotionally abused me. So sick and tired of it. Want to leave but no where to go, stayed home and raised 4 kids so don't have up to date experience for a job that would pay a good wage, etc., so I just stay. Loneliness is a constant in my life. Have 2 kids left at home that are 18 & 21. When the oldest moves out I am going to make her room as my own bedroom. The only thing that keeps me going is my wonderful children. There is so much more to say but it would take forever.
ReplyDeleteHELLO ... JUST A TEST .....
ReplyDeleteI can't stand a cheater and a backstabbing so call friend..And a loser that don't want nothing out of life..
ReplyDeleteI had an affair with my married boss for almost a year. We got caught, and he told his wife and they moved back to where they were originally from. I'm still a little upset over the whole thing, I feel bad but think about him all the time. I just can't get over him. He never said goodbye to me so it hurts because I need closure. I dont know what to do to forget about the whole situation and move on.
ReplyDeleteShall we face some reality together because you seem immune to it on your own.
DeleteHoney he used you for sex and flattery. End of.
Of course he never said goodbye. That would never have entered his mind. You were never important enough to him.
Move on and find a SINGLE guy
I slept with my best friend. It was HORRIBLE! He's small down there. He shot off like a speeding bullet. It lasted under 2 minutes. Now he's begging me to do it again. I tell him no but he keeps begging! He thinks a pill will make it better but I know for a fact it won't. He can't stroke it how I like. I tried telling him nicely but it's not sinking in. If he asks me again I'm going to tell him how I really feel about his lousy performance!
ReplyDeleteLife is a battle everyday when does It stop can't we just have peace and harmony ...
ReplyDeleteAm sick n tired of every1 taking me 4 granted!! have decided 2 turn in2 a selfish biatch n c how many ppl stick around!! am goina look after who matters the most....my 2 gorgeous bbys!! feck itttttttttttttt
ReplyDeleteI know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
ReplyDeleteAre there any others out there that find the Oprah's worshiping so irritating?
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I hate my alcoholic husband.Sometimes I wish he was dead!
ReplyDeletei know what you mean :(
Deletebut it still breaks my heart to think of leaving...
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ReplyDeleteLet me start by saying I survived an abusing 30 year marriage, he cheated on me and was an alcoholic and was abusive mentally, verbally, and physically. It took me way too many years to finally get up and leave because I thought he would change. Well I have a secret no one knows. All the time he was cheating on me and abusing me, he was passed out one night right before I left and his younger brother came over and made some moves on me, I took him up on that deal because if he ever found out, he might feel a tenth of what I felt all these years. I got nothing out of the marriage but the clothes on my back. Now I have a car, and am going back to school, it's my turn now!
ReplyDeleteI cut myself and i dont feel that i can trust anyone enough to tell them. I dont let anyone see the inside of my thighs. I dont know how to stop. I have scars over scars. I lost count of how many times ive cut myself. I feel so lonely and thats the only way I can let some of these feelings go.
ReplyDeleteI wish men who cheat on their wives and then blame everyone else for their problems would get a clue. they get on fb, read a comment and automatically think its about them. probably because they have a guilty conscience. another story: ex pastors who retire and then try to preach at that same church every chance they get then act all offended when they are asked to find a different church...totally arogant and clueless
ReplyDeleteThis isn't going to be a "Show us your skeletons" in the closet is it? Yuck. Not what I expected at all. Sorry, but was Facebook having a fit again? I like your stuff, I hope it won't go by the wayside.
ReplyDeletei have bad insomnia and it is completely taking over my life and making my health decline. i high blood pressure, and heart disease because of it. my palpitations happen often. i tell people i sleep an hour or two but all i do is lay in bed and pray to sleep. Insomnia makes me grumpy as it is but if i am having a bad day it is worse because of my bipolar.
ReplyDeletei feel so bad for my family having to deal with me but i can not take meds because when i have tried them i have been caught sleep walking and trying to drive. I don't take the melatonin because it doesnt work. warm drinks, nyquil, reading, movies, night masks, new beds, changed eating habits,......i have done it all and nothing. i am doomed for the rest of my life and i am only 30.
God is so good. No, I'm not a religious fanatic. Just happy to be on this side of the dirt, and to wake up with a sound (well , almost sound) mind, have use of my arms and legs, have an AWESOME daughter, good friends and family. I have problems, and quite a few of them. But nothing that isn't do-able. Thank you, God for being so good to me.
ReplyDeleteI know the Bible says, you are supposed to forgive, but how do you forgive someone that you feel, might have very well contributed to the death of your mother, and also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. My mother was addicted to pain pills for many, many years. She was in and out of the hospital with all kind of health issues, due to the pills. The ENABLER as I call her, knew how I felt about my mothers addiction and how bad it hurt me and knew that I would not take my mother to get the pills. My mother passed and 3 years later the ENABLER tells me, "that I just don't know how many doctors she took her to, and how many drugs stores she had to go to, to get my mother her pills". Why in the hell would the ENABLER even say that to me? I just don't understand. My mother was admitted to the hospital due to the fact that she had once again over did it taking the pain pills, then she ended up getting MRSA, sepsis and pneumonia while in the hospital and passed away. The ENABLER tried for years to do anything she could to come between my mother and I, (you know the nosy body who just tries to cause any kind of conflict they can, because they are jealous, can't mind their own business), to no avail, as my mother did state, blood is thicker than water. Well, I feel like she finally accomplished coming between us, by putting my mother in her grave. I just can't help but feel, that had the ENABLER not took my mother to get her pills she would still be here with us. Yes, I know she died of the things she got in the hospital, but had she not been doped up on her pain pills, she would not have gone to the hospital in the first place. How do you forgive that? The ENABLER also kicked a woman dying of cancer out of her home. The woman found out she had stage 4 lung cancer in March and passed away in July. The woman was her mother in law. The ENABLER also has a bad habit of continuously lying to people about her own illness. She has MS and I truly do hate that she is sick. I would wish that on no one, not even my worst enemy, but why would you lie to people about your illness. She has told everyone that she has been on Chemo for the past three years and that she is losing her hair due to that. First off she has not been on Chemo for the past three years and I know this for I was taking her to the Doctor myself and heard and knew what she was on. Second, she has been losing her hair for the past 10 years at least. Why lie about things like this. Is that not Taboo? There are so many more things, to many to list here. For years my husband has told me to just tolerate. Of course I have not heard that statement from him since I told him what she told me about my mother and the pain pills. How do I find it in my heart to forgive this ENABLER? It is so hard, for this ENABLER is what is supposed to be a family member and I am so lost and consumed with what she has done. Again how do I find it in my heart to forgive her?
ReplyDeleteNeeding to vent and hopefully feel better afterwards.
ReplyDeleteGuess I'm feeling semi-suicidal today. Just wanting all the pain and craziness in my head to stop. Meds aren't working. Praying non stop. Afraid to talk to anyone about what's going on in my head, anyone at all. This is ridiculous. I'm too old for this. Been doing so well. Don't even want to just cut. This too shall pass, so they tell me. One way or another it will pass.